Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”
– Harvey Fierstein.
How often do you feel the unexpected gaze or stare of a stranger? Well, I do quite a bit. So much in fact that my usually non-violent cute little cousin spouted off frustrated comments about one such incident. I believe the statement, “ I would kick Her in Her big dumb face,” was actually used. As mean as that sounds it was very sweet because She was upset about the gawking of one particular Woman. I, on the other hand didn’t even notice it. I’m sure people wonder what in the heck happened to me, which is fine. It took a good while to feel okay about going out into public after the hospital due to the potential(and actual) gawking. However, I was told to hold my head high no matter what, and haven’t looked back since. Whether you feel particularly good or awfully different that makes no difference. Because, either way you should carry yourself with esteem. Your story is unknown to a stranger and certainly not their story.This is where unknowingly the Ray Bans tagline of “Never Hide,” is actually brilliant. At some point I decided people were staring because I’m so damn pretty, so there. This allowed any rude gawkers or gawking to quickly fade to black in my grand play of life. Understandably, my cousin is thirteen years old and has yet to learn this. Yet, people of every age could benefit from such an attitude! You don’t have to resemble a piece of beef jerky and wear stretch band waisted pants, and “special shoes,” before you stop caring what other people think. You can start doing that right now and it is freedom! Just imagine it like when kids pick their noses in public, “ We just don’t care people.” To have that feeling of freedom is pretty awesome. It means you can focus more on the important things and less on other people. Because, it is extremely likely the rest of the population is far too self absorbed to pay so much attention to you anyway. In those odd moments when they do, whether it’s for something spectacular(I do have Prada on, thanks!) Or something a bit embarrassing, it’s totally okay just breathe and move on. Granted, we’d rather be thought of as mostly spectacular the latter happens sometimes too. It is in those moments, whether occasionally or perpetual, we learn to just get back up. Besides, what somebody else eats does not give you a stomach ache unless you let it. Therefore, focus on what’s on your own plate. This isn’t to say you should be self absorbed, certainly not. Except, that sometimes what’s on your plate is more important than what they have on theirs. After all, they’re not living your life for you that’s in your hands.
go pick your nose!
Jay ColbyApril 18, 2016 at 11:23 pm (7 years ago)
Amazing post & you have some great contentReply
LeahApril 18, 2016 at 11:38 pm (7 years ago)
Wow, Jay thank you! If you want even more resources on the mind I highly recommend checking out Dr. Caroline Leaf.She’s incredibly(brilliant) and on point. You can find Her on television as well as online. Thanks again for your generous compliment!💗
FayApril 29, 2016 at 3:05 am (7 years ago)
Ms Leah, You are so funny. I do enjoy your blogs. Please keep it up.Reply
We arrived home @ 6 PM this evening. Trying to catch up on my emails. 230 of them. Love you, Gr’ma
LeahApril 29, 2016 at 3:47 pm (7 years ago)
Aw, thank you!😘😘