“Life is too short to be at war with yourself.” -unknown.
After a traumatic brain injury our souls tend to get lost in the fog. Actually, after any serious trauma, every person needs some time to get a strong foothold on reality once more. However, with strokes and injuries of similar circumstances there can be personality changes. I remember my Mother saying “You’re still there!” As I giggled with joy at the fact, She had recognized in me a character trait that had been unchanged by my stroke. Much like Robin Williams is not recognized by the lost boys as Peter Pan; I had to let my personality shine through so I could be recognized. I was so afraid that besides stealing my life circumstances the stroke had taken my personality too. I spent a great deal of time questioning the what-ifs, buts, and making excuses. Such self doubt led to me over explaining my intentions and questioning myself. Resulting in a further retreat of my personality. It was when I finally let go, and receded into peace while my circumstances washed around me like water; that I was able to find my way through the fog of such a traumatic event. If only I had learned to let go sooner, how much further along would I be now? I was clinging to life as it was, rather then how it IS. Accepting your circumstances doesn’t mean you’re going to settle for being stuck, quite the opposite! Instead, through acceptance comes peace and THEN the real battle can begin. We all have a variety of battles to fight on our individual paths through life. However, that fight becomes much more difficult when your own ego gets in the way. When you finally embrace the path you’re walking, it is then you can choose which way to go. The fun part comes, when you realize that can be ANY direction. As a survivor of a trauma you have been given the tools to write a new book. I only advise to aim for that book to be on the best sellers list.
