Posts Tagged ‘victory’
“You realize that our mistrust of the future makes it hard to give up the past.”
― Chuck Palahniuk.
We’ve got to look forward and keep moving, not delving into the past. This is especially hard if you have fears about what the future holds. As a stroke survivor I found that even my worries had worries. It was that much harder to think of the future not only because of fear, but also because my heart was stuck in the past.We must not let our hearts be offended. Why? Because, taking offense(at someone or something) keeps us in a place of pain and inhibits our growth. If we choose to live in a place of unforgiveness we’ll become that much more cold, and hardened, the good things of life cannot grow or flourish in rocky soil! Therefore, we need to let go of the past and of those things that hold us back. For what seems like ages I’ve lived in my past. Because quite frankly, having my independence was far better than my current bleak reality. However, I am no longer the person that I was, in fact none of us are. To remain the same would be to stunt our growth and limit ourselves. No matter what happens to you remember that “ You are not a victim but a victor!” In trying times it’s easy to get stuck in the former “better,” situations of our past. However, you must continue swimming forward or even in some cases treading water. Because, if you stop to consider the past too deeply, the weight of it will not only tie you up but cause you to sink. By remaining in my past I missed the good things in my present. The good news is, it’s never too late to begin moving forward. Indeed the sooner the better, and making a habit of it isn’t a bad idea either. Therefore, do not stop to consider your past for too long or too often. Far greater things lie ahead!
“Victory at all costs, victory in spite of all terror, victory however long and hard the road may be; for without victory, there is no survival.” -Winston Churchill
Perhaps you’re afraid of commitment, a strong independent Woman, or claustrophobic. Therefore, you likely dislike and understand feeling tied down. Everyone wants to feel free to do what they want to do. However, there are things in life that can restrict us, and understandably so, we really hate that. Anything that serves to hold you back, hold you up, or hold you down must go! We forget that these things aren’t always physical, but many are emotional too. If you cannot at least rid yourself of the physical circumstances, the good news is that the emotional ones you can. After all, give anything time and work on it with determination, perseverance, with grit, and it will change. For a time in my case it was the ball and chain of medications. I left the hospital with a tray full of nearly ten(10!) different daily medications, a feeding tube, a daily shot, and confined to a home hospital bed. That was three years ago(2013)and what do I have now? Well, only two(2!) daily medications, no feeding tube, and a supremely comfortable new queen bed. You see? Give it time. Granted, my family and I worked very hard to get here. Even in those times of feeling defeated or utterly disdainful, I can proudly say I always got my butt out of bed to face the day. Why? Because like certain foods, you eat it anyway because it’s good for you.This is telling of the fact that you just need to face life no matter how scary it becomes. Because, like a taunting grade school bully, if you stand up to it, it will back down into a more manageable situation. At one time I needed medication to keep me sane, yet more recently said medication is no longer needed. It’s been kicked to the curb. You can do this too, no little pill can “fix,” your problems as well as you can by changing your way of thinking. Perhaps, you’ll surprise yourself in finding that life gets ever better when you jump at it, rather then shrink away. If you need any reassurance of that, just ask the girl who was at once downtrodden but now finds victory in everyday living. Because, simply having the privilege to live out each day is a victory.
“The true warrior isn’t immune to fear, She fights in spite of it.” -Francesca Lia Block.
What’s the best memory you have from your life? I asked my 97 year old Great Grandma. “ I don’t think about those things much anymore.” She replied. Whether it’s because She can’t remember or doesn’t want to I’m not sure, but regardless She still wanted Her pictures in Her new room. Our memories like pictures can bring us back to a specific time and place and with them the same feelings. A picture can not only say a thousand words but can bring us back into a moment at a precise point in space and time. I used to collect old pictures of strangers from antique shops and dream up stories about them. People often wish for a time machine, but we’ve already built one, the camera. A photograph like a memory fades over time, and you can never have too many of the good ones. But unlike memories photographs don’t rearrange themselves. Perhaps this is why we tend to value our photographs so much. We take them, even paying others to take them for us,compile them into books, and save them from a fire. As a human race we collectively cherish our good memories. The reason for this is evident, life can be hard! Having the ability to look back and remember the good times is often a life saver. In the early days of my stroke recovery I found myself looking at pictures a lot to remind myself of the wonderful times I’ve had. This is also why when one begins to lose memory it’s so devastating. Much like photographs getting lost or burned up in a house fire. Except the house fire is in the form of a disease like alzheimers or dementia, and sometimes denial. When you’re having a difficult time it’s vital to tell yourself the right kind of stories. Just as you would look at happy pictures when your sad, see yourself as the hero and victor in your own story!
Take the good pictures!
“Don’t let your fear of what could happen, make nothing happen.” -unknown
How likely is it that what you fear will come true? It’s good to ask yourself these questions. Is this true? Is it factual? Do I know what the future holds? By asking yourself these questions, your fear will soon hold little weight in your mind. Because, many of our fears have no real power and many aren’t steeped in reality. The likelihood that your fear will come true is slim to none. In the movies that you play in your mind are you the victim or the victor? Decide to see yourself healthy, wealthy, and victorious.Not to mention, you can control your fear, it doesn’t control you nor dictate your future. In 2016 we will have 365 days and 8,760 hours of time to fill as we choose, don’t let fear cause you to waste any of it! This new year signifies a fresh start for all of us around the world. It holds new goals, new possibilities, new opportunities, and new horizons! Among these things, in the United States, many set for themselves New Year’s resolutions. However, many resolutions while they have strong beginnings eventually taper off into the dust bin of forgotten. So many people are pre-occupied with body image and health, they forget about their mental health. Rather then resolve to eat healthier, why not resolve to think healthier? Part of that is to shed the thoughts and feelings preventing you from your full potential. Not enough of us are told that we can set our own limits, as well as break them. One of the biggest offenders is fear and his sidekick doubt. These two combined have paralyzed many ideas in their infancy as well as the people who originated them. Too often they plant the seeds of failure in your mind, that then bloom into invisible walls. It’s the fearless who find ways over the walls and meet their dreams on the other side. What ever it is you’d like to do, or the goal that you wish to meet, you can achieve it. Choose to shed fear rather then pounds at the gym. Without the weight of it holding you down, you’ll be so light, that reaching the stars will naturally become possible.
shoot for the moon!