“Take a leap of faith and begin this wondrous new year by believing. Believe in yourself. And believe that there is a loving Source – a Sower of Dreams – just waiting to be asked to help you make your dreams come true.” -Sarah Ban Breathnach.
As with every new year we get a clean hopeful slate on which to scribble our aspirations on. Many resolutions are made, but notoriously not kept. They begin with a vigor only to be abandonedhalf way or later on. Why? Do we have short attention spans, lose focus, get tired easily, or just make goals up for fun?It’s likely a small amount of all of those but mainly what we choose to focus on. Are we keeping our eye continually on the prize and remaining positive or letting fear and doubt creep in on us? Many times in the pursuit of happiness we need to build adefense wall up against fear and doubt. This New Year began with me down in the trenches and feeling hopelessly sad. However, as thenew days of January began to pour in, I shifted my focus and the gloom lifted. I had to consciously choose to look at the bright side of the coming year. Even in the little things like a great upcoming film, phone upgrade(I love new gadgets), or paying down my debts. Those are all good things to look forward to and helped nudge that gloom on it’s way right out of the door. Today, I am hopeful about the future because I’m only seeing the good things. I have eliminated watchingreading or listeningto negative content. Cutting out as much negative(or dark) noise from your reality is crucial. Just like advertising can subconsciously and subtly have an effect on you, so can the negative influences in the world around us. Therefore, keep it light! You may have to cut out a show or certain music, but the resulting clearing of air and your mind is well worth it. The effects of being choosey about what you let in arehuge. Don’t accept those negative things(or thoughts) through the gates of your mind. Be a vigilante! Stop those thoughts from entering before they even begin. Better yet, negate those negative thoughts and give them a dose of their own medicine. When you hear a voice that whispers things like “Your never going to get there.” or “ It’s not going to happen.” and “Why even bother?” Declare out loud the opposite of those statements. After all, even Michelangelo’s masterpiece the David; was formed by diligently chipping away at a massive block of marble. Not to mention, marble is one of the hardest rocks out there. Dare I say it’s difficult just as your circumstances or goals may be. Except, Michelangelo persevered and look what He accomplished? A timeless and breath taking masterpiece! In the same way make your life a David.
“You realize that our mistrust of the future makes it hard to give up the past.”
― Chuck Palahniuk.
We’ve got to look forward and keep moving, notdelvinginto the past.This is especially hard if youhave fears about what the future holds.As astroke survivor I found thateven my worries had worries.It wasthat much harder to think of the future not only because of fear, butalso because my heart was stuck in the past.Wemust not let our hearts be offended. Why? Because,taking offense(at someone or something) keeps us in a place of pain and inhibits our growth. If we choose to live in a place of unforgiveness we’ll becomethat much more cold,and hardened, the good things of life cannot grow or flourish inrocky soil! Therefore, we need to let go of the past and of thosethings that hold us back.For what seems like ages I’ve lived in my past. Because quite frankly, having my independence was farbetter than my current bleak reality.However, I am no longer the person that I was, in fact none of us are. To remain the same would be to stunt our growth and limit ourselves. No matter what happens toyou remember that “ You are not a victim but a victor!”In trying times it’s easy to get stuck in the former “better,” situations of our past. However,you must continueswimming forward or even in some cases treading water. Because, if you stop to consider the past too deeply, the weight of it will not only tie you up but cause you to sink. By remaining in my past I missed the good things in my present. The good news is, it’s never too late to begin moving forward. Indeed the sooner the better, and making a habit of it isn’t a bad idea either. Therefore, do not stop to consider your past for too long or too often. Far greater things lie ahead!
“Set high standards and few limitations for yourself.”- Anthony J. D’Angelo
Don’t you dare set a glass ceiling for yourself! We were made to spread like seeds and forthe good things we desire to multiply in our lives. The Worldis limitations based on shortages. As evidenced by the mass media’s favorite things to report on; shortages and lack. However, don’t fall into the trap of evaluating yourself basedupon what other people say or limitations you place on yourself. Also, don’t let circumstancesshape you and adjust your goals to them. Don’t stop aiming for the “big ticket,” because currently your bank account doesn’t reflect the cost of saidbig ticket. Rather thanlooking at what you don’t have, focus on what you do have!We tend to look more at what there isn’t than what there is.Here’sashort list that’s sure to garner an increase ofwhat you desire:
1) Be thankful a.k.a gratitude.
2) Use what you have.
3) Bless what you have.
Did you know that as babies we only have two natural fears?They are fallingor being dropped and loud noises. However, a study done on700 Adults showed that they shared a common number of fears,(about 7,000) and that somewhere between birth and adulthood we had acquired thousands of fears. We were not born to harbor fear and worry, the two main culprits responsible forsetting limits. We’re afraid of the future, afraid of what others may think, and afraid to take risks.Personally, my biggest accomplishments came when I ignored any limitations or what people said. I would bet once you do the same, the sky’s the limit! Dear readers do not be conformed to this world, there are no limitations,only the ones we allow to be set in our lives.
“Don’t let your fear of what could happen, make nothing happen.” -unknown
How likely is it that what you fear will come true? It’s good to ask yourself these questions. Is this true? Is it factual? Do I know what the future holds? By asking yourself these questions, your fear will soon hold little weight in your mind. Because, many of our fears have no real power and many aren’t steeped in reality. The likelihood that your fear will come true is slim to none. In the movies that you play in your mind are you the victim or the victor? Decide to see yourself healthy, wealthy, and victorious.Not to mention, you can control your fear, it doesn’t control you nor dictate your future. In 2016 we will have 365 days and 8,760 hours of time to fill as we choose, don’t let fear cause you to waste any of it! This new year signifies a fresh startfor all of us around the world. It holds new goals, newpossibilities, new opportunities, and new horizons!Among these things, in the United States, manyset for themselves New Year’s resolutions. However,many resolutions while they have strong beginnings eventuallytaper off into the dust bin of forgotten.So many people are pre-occupied with body image and health, they forget abouttheir mental health. Rather then resolveto eat healthier, why not resolve to think healthier? Part of that is to shed the thoughts and feelings preventing you from your full potential. Not enough of us are told that we can setour own limits, as well asbreak them. One of the biggestoffenders is fearand his sidekick doubt. These two combined haveparalyzed many ideasin theirinfancy as well as the people who originated them. Too often they plant the seeds of failure in your mind, that then bloom into invisible walls. It’s the fearless whofind ways over the walls and meet their dreams on the other side. What ever it is you’d like to do, or the goal that you wish to meet, you can achieve it. Choose to shed fear rather then pounds at the gym. Without the weight of it holding you down, you’ll be so light, that reaching the stars willnaturally become possible.
“Life is not a dress rehearsal, stop practicing what your going to do and just go and do it, you can transform today.” -Marilyn Grey
If your just shooting for average, your failing miserably. It’s an act of the foolish to compare oneself to others, or measure against them. It’sa ritual of mediocrity to comparewith other people. you were created for something far bigger than you can imagine. The truth is that even if your doing well, there is more out there for you. A sense of dissatisfacion is a signal that your not fulfilling your purpose. It is when were doing what we were made for that fulfillment will be reached. Rather than surmise your doing well by measuring against what others are doing, why not take a different approach? What would happen if you aimed to be different or do better than everyone else instead? Also don’t shy away from proclaiming your big dreams to others, for fear of rejection or sounding silly. Fear is what limits us in many if not all ways. Don’t be afraid of what other people think, because it robs you of your potential. Even by simply proclaiming your dreams and aspirations out loud(no matter how “crazy”) you’ll see things begin to shift and your life will change. I’m fairly confident that no one in history who posessed a legendary last name settled for doing just as well as everyone else. Due to the mass practice of people comparing themselves to each other, it’s exactly why We see so few names that outshine the rest. This is a bad habit of humanity that needs to be broken. Not to mention, by escaping the comparison trap, you’ll focus more on your particular brand of potential,squelch the green monster(jealousy),and you might just find yourself in a niche of society. This would be an excellent occurrence, because then you will be like no one else. Which is the point of course, to be the one and only YOU.
“Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.
– Charles Dickens.”
How many friends doyou have? I’m not speaking of Facebook, Instagram or social media, butactual friends. We cross paths withand touch hundreds of people every year. This didn’t become so obvious to me until I landed in the ICU of an upstate New York Hospital. Anonlinefundraiser was started for me, and who were the majority of donors? Well, not many of them wereclose friends, surprising?Yes!Instead, they were the girl I had crossed paths with once in my work and charmed, the group oflovely friends in Brooklyn that I played beer pong with oncein their loft, a group of pretty girls I took a pin-upclass with in New York City, family members and best friends of people(ie my boyfriend at the time) that loved me. Even people I worked with or had worked with contributed. As manyof my friendsthat gave, so did peoplewho I had crossed paths with beforethestroke occurred. Some of these near perfect strangers even wrote in loving(some funny)things with their donations.Not only was I peasantly surprised by the outpouring of love,but even more so the reactions I received from those I had met only once(or twice). Icouldn’t believe they remembered me, much less that I left such an impression. What if I had been grumpy,unfriendly,or unapproachable that day instead? It was obvious that you never know who your going to meet, andhow they’ll react to(and remember) you. Little did I know at the time, that each of these beautiful souls could easily have beensome of my very close friends! This also begs the question “ How would you like to be remembered?We all want to be remembered fondly, and I just happened to get a glimpse of my own rememberence. This clearly showed me that, youshould not take your presence for granted. Because you affect far more then you know. I left a lasting impression not because of what happened to me, but rather because of who I am as a person. These people remembered a friendly,fun,relatable girl. Wecan all leave such impressions. How? By waking up each day, embracing it, being grateful for our lives, and holding onto our childlike wonder. Moreoverby letting go of our fears or worriesand taking life head on, because after all We only have one!
“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.”― Oscar Wilde.
Let’s face it, “reality bites.” Why else would Winona Ryder star in a movie of the same title? Being realistic is great, but it can alsolimit you. Imagination coupled withambition or chutzpah is far better. Grantedbeing realistic is good, I find a balancebetween reality and imagination is far better. If I were realistic, I would’ve missed out on some of the best things in my life so far. Realists be damned, but taking a leap of faith in the direction of your dreams is far more rewarding then beingpractical! Perhaps this makes more sense to the dreamers, but whatever you are too much “reality,” will limit you. Because, there’s nothing like reality to take the wind out of your sails. Over the years and even more so now I’ve culled an almost innateability to ignore the naysayers. The proof is in the pudding, because each time I took a risk that I was warnedabout and it worked out this justfueled me to take more. I suppose I’m very blessed that they worked out. However, aside from the supernatural I found that higher thinking also helped. You’d be surprised how much you can do when you put your mind to it and ignore your fears. Our brains are pliable nearly our entire lives(it’s called neuroplasticity) this means we can continually learn and shape ourselves. To take advantage of this try to think outside of the box and don’t be afraid of the word “No,” or failure. Even if your on the bottom, you can only go up!One ofthe larger things I’ve noticed during my recovery, is how often I see perfectly capable people hold themselves back solely in their minds. A fact that has continually bothered me because Ihave witnessed people with missing limbs not even be held back from running so to speak.Many people are blind to the fact that they have the world at their fingertips. If I could magically do one thing, I’d like to open their eyes to this reality of having limitless possibility. Imagine how much farther you’d go if you heard or said “Yes,” more. Reality has a way of trying to clip your wings if you let it, so don’t let it! Submerge yourself in the possible instead of impossible. Even making agoal list, beginning with small things will help you gear up toconquer the larger ones. It’s funny how beginning with “Do laundry today,” can lead intoget a motorcycle license. Because that goalcan be just as simple or mundane as doing laundry. A mountain is only as large as you see it being.