When my 30th birthday was approaching,like most I was dreading it because I was not where I wanted to be or should be in life,-BUT -on a day I awoke quite cranky my mood was soon to be foiled,my family and friends threw me a surprise party that was Breakfast at Tiffany’s themed and just as pretty as a bridal shower.
My mood went from cranky to shocked pretty quick and you know what else?
Even though 30 is relatively young I feel better than ever because not only am I more comfortable with myself,I’m smarter and know what I want too.
If its wrinkles your dreading…fear not!
There is still plenty of time for that,not only do I not have any but weigh less than I ever did too,so 30 isn’t so bad really and as for where I want to be in life, it’s just a matter of time…….
Photo:2011 Upper East Side Manhattan after working a day at Memorial Sloan Kettering.
Credit:my friend Lesly!
I had dreamed of living in NYC and owning a Vespa since I was 16 years old,when I got both,realizing that, I cried.
As the story goes after 3 years of living in my favorite city I suffered a massive stroke which has sent me packing to recover in Michigan
Fearing I had lost everything,the reason my Vespa became ever more important to me was because it now symbolized dreams reached and possibly my dreams lost….
After a couple of buyers inquired on it because now not being able to ride it and owing more on it than it was worth I needed something I could use.Now the Vespa symbolized NYC,the freedom I had,my hard work&dreams,lots of good memories,and not to mention it is beautiful as seen below ha-ha
So instead since the funds from it were used to buy a new computer,it seems only fitting to in turn use it to further write my story and of course this isn’t goodbye forever just for now.
As the song goes for everything there is a season
I’m just looking forward to my Summer returning and little by little it is !so far one thing that has returned is Blogcademy NYC I missed the class but this weekend I’ll be going to Blogcademy Chicago! AND for free! Because I won a scholarship,so it did return and even better……
There will certainly be more things to come and perhaps even better!
I think Ryan Gosling is swoon worthy,you may think He is swoon worthy,all the teary eyed girlies at The Notebook think Ryan Gosling is swoon worthy……
We also agree that He sadly plays a fictional character,while this fictional romance is something We would all love,a devoted,playful.sweet love by our side,the truth is that sadly real Noah’s are few and far between beyond the movie screen,in reality you will be letdown,you will be disappointed,you will be left…..
The good news?
This will not only enable you to learn about yourself more but also force you to pull up your boot straps,grow stronger and chalk it up to the saying
: If he won’t fight for you he isn’t right for you.
Because in the end as pessimistic as that is,sometimes you have to fight for yourself because if the person you love can’t see your value then perhaps you should let your value of them depreciate,while yours increases!?there are too many mirrors in the world for you to miss the view of your own lovely reflection,if you have been wounded…… more good news! wounds heal,just like hair grows back after a bad haircut, just give it time.
When I have been the unlucky recipient of the title “Dumpee I mope for a considerable amount of time,sure but I also try to shift focus and sometimes even do things I don’t want to because it helps to shift head space,it also doesn’t hurt to have some good friends to be with….
If all else fails:
To be clear I don’t condone revenge on an ex! Besides “What goes around comes around,I tend to subscribe to whatever Justin Timberlake sings about….
Eventually after the pain dulls and the sun shines in your life again(hopefully sooner than later!)
You’ll find it warming your heart too and when that light fills you up it has nowhere else to go but out of your eyes and maybe even in the direction of a cute new Ryan Gosling look-a- like!?
In conclusion you may whether you want to or not get pretty comfortable with yourself and may even think of your ex: “Thanks for loosing me from that ball&chain,your loss!
As a pin read that I bought once from an old dirty biker(,and warranted many unwanted pickups from gas station attendants):
Single&Ready To Mingle. enjoy the good times those moments are for you,
It is believed that when you give it comes back to you and sometimes ten fold…..well if that is the case then I have some good news for you,it does!
Recently I received a porcelain Tiffany box wrapped inside a larger Tiffany’s gift box
The funny thing is…….
Not too long ago I nabbed a Tiffany’s gift box from a co-worker,which I then gave away with a gift inside for my Aunt at Christmas,partly because I needed a box to wrap and partly because I knew She may never have Her own Tiffany’s box,especially since you have to have a purchase inside to even leave the store with one….
Even though I would have liked to keep it I chose to give it away, but!
More recently lo and behold that box returned to me even better (porcelain) and guess what!?
In yet another Tiffany’s box so now I have two.
Another example could also be the time I gave $50.00 to church,then later won $500.00 (Hello ten-fold)
I also won a scholarship toBlogcademy Chicago…….A blog post on that soon too!
In conclusion,in my experience,Things come back and usually quite sweetly.
What do people and the general public know about blogs?
What do people know about the type of person who blogs?
A beauty queen? A troublemaker?A nerd? A sports aficionado? An oddball?
It’s a veritable blogger Breakfast Club!
In my experience few people know of the great things that can be done by simply putting your fingers to keyboard keys
It also doesn’t hurt to have a great imagination and creative flair (not flare)
It may appear to be a mindless diary or just have a good design aesthetic…
It’s anything but!
As Women We have enough beauty magazines to tell us what to buy,how to look,or how to be better…
Instead We need a positive forum to connect,network,and show that were pretty inside and out!
It may be a “Man’s World” but why don’t We make that a Woman‘s world?
with pink combat boots and all!
Why I think I should win:
I was actually all set to attend Blogcademy NYC but 2 weeks before at the age of 28(I’m now 30)I suffered a massive stroke and besides serious Hospitalization I missed out on quite a few things,too many to bear…. -BUT- after being motivated to create this essay/scrapbook for a scholarship to the class it helped to really motivate my creative gears to begin moving again after being in a long depressive slump.
I believe the blog “phenomenon” could help many others and the reason I entered to win this,this time around is because due to mounting medical bills,it’s the only way I can afford to go….
Thank you for your time,and good luck to all entries! I hope to see you all soon
On October 12th of 2012 in upstate Newyork at the age of 28 I had a massive stroke out of nowhere,but now a little over a year of recovery time,I am in therapy on a weekly basis,its been a hard road…We put a years worth of miles on our car in half the time…
There are several types of therapies to keep you moving…
Massage Therapy(which dealt with getting nerves to wake up again)this was considered to be an alternative therapy
Suit Therapy-which is typically for children with Cerebral Palsy but helps to activate
Speech underused muscles 6. Speech TherapySincemy discharge from Inpatient Rehab(all 64 days of it…) I have been on a weekly schedule of therapy and Doctor visits,which at first were arduous,but now have become routine as I make my way back into some normalcy in what as been a very irregular and difficult time period in my life thus far,now all I can do is continue to work,persevere,and keep hope.Never has the saying “One day at a time been more relevant,as well as the term ‘Patience of a Saint’ While recovering and being less independent I have had to learn how to be patient and wait for nearly everything, which has probably been one of the larger changes,coming from being a fiercely independent woman….
Barwis Method is ran by College Football Strength&Conditioning Coach,legendary Mike Barwis out of Plymouth,Michigan, the training facility consists of an area for weights and modified workout machines(built by personal specifications according to Mike) as well as an indoor field,He physically challenges athletes and laymen alike and of all physical rehab I have done his is my favorite.These days Mike is a hard guy to catch as He builds a new center and more recently has begun filming on American Muscle,soon to be on the Discovery Channel.I have been lucky to meet this forward thinking trainer,not to mention a person that like most rather than being self focused chooses to take time to help others.
A poem upon parting……
One ship drives East,
and another drives West,
With the self-same winds that blow;
Tis the set of the sails, and not the gales,
Which tells us the way to go.
Like the winds of the sea are the ways of fate,
As we voyage along through life;
Tis the set of the soul that decides its goal,
And not the calm or the strife.
In talking to a friend recently it was pointed out that “it’s better to have loved&lost then to have never loved at all” this can be applied to a host of things from broken relationships to broken dreams and so forth the best thing to do is focus on the positive and maintain a stiff upper lip(without denying your feelings of course),and to march on no matter how sad you may be and keep in mind things could also sometimes mimic a boomerang and return to you. It helps to speak into life what you wantWhen situations seem especially bleak you just have to cling to what you love and who loves you.Sometimes no one can love you as much as you(hopefully)love yourself
At any rate stay strong and carry on!
Even if that sometimes involves not thinking at all,keeping occupied, or avoiding the subject, either way surround yourself with as much positive content as your able,keep up hope,and always strive for more,even when it seems elusive don’t fret but keep in mind that in this life, magic(it does exist!) happens when you least expect it.
On October 12,2012 I suffered a massive stroke that has surely changed things ,mine will be a story of recovery and fighting the good fight to get back what I lost as well as be grateful for the things I still have and can offerI have found very little in the way of fellow young survivors save for one,Nina from Boston,Massachusetts who had one at the age of26Shehas a great quirky blog check it out here——>POP!
On October 12 of 2012 I suffered a massive stroke at the age of twenty eight I personally have found very little in the way of other young survivors except Nina from Boston who has a great quirky blog whom also had a stroke but at an even younger age of twenty six,check it out here—-—->POP! I plan on sharing my story of rehabilitation and fighting the good fight to regain what was lost,please feel free to share and/or contact me(firstname.lastname@example.org with any questions or ideas/stories,Thanks for reading!!
I have been walking in circles, how frustrating is it when life becomes a string of work, work, home, work.. ahhh ! There is more, there HAS to be more then the 4 concrete walls inside which I live. It doesn’t help that I get bored easily.. I can recall long periods of time spent laying on my bed staring at the ceiling before finally deciding to get up and retreat to my Mother to exclaim “I’m Bored” to which she replied “Someday you’ll wish you were bored.” or threats of “I’ll find something for you to do..” Really?
I often now know what she meant, back then all my responsibilities consisited of -Go To School, and thats it… oh how nice it was to be bored!!
But alas I get bored now, more so… restless
I always feel more content around the people I love, naturally….when left to my own devices for long stretches of time I either get weirder and sometimes quieter (yes, I do actually stop talking at some point, believe it or not)
So fellow humans reading this article what is the solution to this boredom? Well, since I can’t magically move my very best friends and family here to be my neighbors or at least be within weekend visit driving distance.. ALAS….. luckily growing up an only child (please do not be biased, I am not one of thoseonly children, really.) has provided an excellent capacity to entertain oneself and not feel so lonely as a “lone wolf” … Also everyone struggles with boredom and visits Bummerville from time to time.. (Note* Bummerville is nowhere near Margaritaville because the general population hates Jimmy Buffet’s music)
So perhaps not only I but you need the reminder.. Life is full of the following wonderful things..
KittenspuppiesLaughingFriendsFamilyLOVEgoodfood-Icecream!!FALL.Sledding.Humor.Beer.Art.Music.Beautiful things abound! Leaps and jumps of inspiration.luck.hope.dreams.Travel.Cupcakes.ComicBooks.Dinosaurs. and…. pretty much anything else that gives you a glimpse into a better place then the grind we have all created for ourselves and seem to be stuck in at times… Just a friendly reminder that the universe is ever expanding so don’t shut down but expand out with it.. putting limits on yourself in any way is going against nature. Really. And.. I’ve heard Mother Nature isn’t always that forgiving so you better open up and smile.
Notice money is nowhere on the list, honestly, it is the root of all evil and nothing but paper. I worked as a Bank Teller for awhile and at first handling it all you picture this in your head..
But it quickly becomes this after sometime…
I would be in awe of how much people cared about it really. You obviously need it to spin the cogs to live in this world however… it certainly does not buy happiness. Be smart with your money though and you can accomplish a lot of meaningful things however (See also: Altruism, helping family, taking care of your loved ones, buying puppies and kittens?!?!) ha, Why Not?